Honesty, the only thing I liked about the book is the cover design & the title chosen here. Cover has been designed really well, considering the fact that this is a funny book to read. Title is intriguing, catchy & apt – one of the very reason I decided to pick this book. Because it caught my attention. However, I must say I was very much disappointed with the writing style, narration, story & the entire plot extrapolated here.
Only at the beginning of the book, ‘prologue’ which drove me to read the complete book. To my dismay, it was slight interesting only in the initial few chapters. However, later I felt the story was way too dragged, monotonous, & just stretched unnecessarily beyond the requisite amount just to make the book big enough to make the readers uncomfortable. The additional 150 pages weren’t necessary at all. If this book was a short read, then it would have been feasible. However, what makes it worse is the huge length accompanied by the sheer exhaustion in completing it, made me too tiresome & bored beyond recognition!
The sense of humour incorporated throughout the book totally failed. It’s like the author forced his book to be funny via many plausible attempts which can be seen evidently thoroughly throughout – but he failed miserably. Not only did it turned me off, but also made me feel very uncomfortable & cringy. And not to forget the amount of slangs, abuses, abusive context, sexual references & profanity used here. So I maynot suggest this for younger generation.
There’re only few aspects I liked about the book, which I’m sharing below :
‘Why do Indian men ogle more than those from the developed world?’
‘Sometimes we stare at them making them uncomfortable. Sometimes unknowningly, where women may perceive men’s gaze as lustful even if it was appreciative in nature. Because we’re a sexually repressive society. You see, when you’re starving, you turn into an animal. When you’re satisfied, you’re human. Lack of sex education also adds to the cause. The combination of these two leads to curiosity. The lack of these two increases the sexual tension to disproportionate levels & without any proper guidance to understand & channilize this energy, it leads to animal-like instincts.’
‘Why only Indian men then? If it’s about belonging to a sexually repressive society, why don’t Indian women display the same behaviour? I mean, why only one gender?’
‘Because back home, we’re also a patriarchal society. Women have been controlled & told that they can’t cross so many lines, lines that men are allowed to. In addition, I think that our skewed gender ratio too has a role to play. The imbalance drives this animal-like instinct. Top it with the historical trend of objectification of women in bollywood.
Even women check out men if they’re hot, but they don’t make it too obvious. Because women have rightfully equal rights, they too want to stare at men. Women love the idea of being looked at. They find that there’s a possibility that staring at them is a proof that they’re attractive. They too enjoy being stated at, but that depends on the kind of guy who’s checking her out. That will determine whether she enjoys the attention or not. Men should observe the woman’s body language. She’ll drop hints. If she doesn’t like it, she’ll convey it without even speaking. A woman gets to advocate, decide, determine & demand if she wants to be stared or not. Because the woman is the one who’s being looked at. She isn’t an object but a living being. You aren’t supposed to keep staring at her unless she welcomes your gaze. Men should pick those hints given by women. In fact, if the man is smart enough, this staring thing can be used as a powerful tactic to woo women, if it’s used judiciously by men. Be watchful of the person you’re looking at. Follow her or his body language for cues on whether or not he or she is liking it.
‘Just because Indian parents bring their children into this world doesn’t mean they get to control their lives forever.
Why do our parents want us to live the way they want us to live?
Because they tend of believe they know better than us. Because they’ve spent more time on this planet than us.
But the problem lies in the fact that they should raising them. They don’t get that, beyond a point, it’s their children’s lives they’re interfering in. Just because they’re responsible & accountable for their children’s lives & therefore they allow to live the way they want. But wisdom lies in understanding that even if their children are a piece of their heart, their minds are independent. They’ve their own wishes & want to make their own choices. They don’t want to live in this world by their parents standards. In fact, to expect their children to live as per their parents’ choices in itself in incorrect. It compromises the very fundamental aspect of freedom.